Throughout the holiday season, I had several negative experiences with people I encountered while out and about. I guess the holidays bring out the nice in some and the ugly in others! LOL I think it may be the pressure.
Any who, there was one instance where I let this person REALLY get to me. The rest of the day, I was just pissy. I was upset that I let someone “bully” me. Then I proceeded to hold on to the negative energy. It was quite sad, as I probably won’t ever see that person again, and heck, why should I let one person affect me that deeply? Does not make sense, but that is just how I felt. Allen (my bf) can attest, I ruined his day too cus of how negative I was being!
A few weeks later, this happened… again! I had the cashier at a department store be completely and utterly rude to me! What did I do wrong? Did I offend her? Was there a rude customer before me? If she just bitter?
The last time someone was this rude to me, I did not say much. I just stormed off, and held in the negativity within me. This time I had a different action plan. I would “cure her with kindness” (saying borrowed from wellness blogger Priscilla), but instead I poisoned myself even more when I did not receive the response that I was expecting. I spent some of my shopping trip regretting not having put her in her “place”. I guess sometimes I can be “too nice”, and I hate the thought of appearing “weak”.
I thought about how I could make myself feel better… and came up with the following:
The truth is being kind to a rude person does not make you weak. What does make you weak is letting that person ruin your day, or affect the way that you treat others afterwards.
Sometimes curing someone with kindness is not going to work. If anything, this person might think that they have the “upper hand”, “won”, or that “you’re intimidated”.
B***H, I AIN’T. I am just too mature to foster negative energy in my being or in my life… OK BYE hahaha…
No but, seriously, we receive and give energy all day long. At times, we will unfairly receive negative energy when we were having a good day! Do you want to be the person who continues to transmit it in that form, or would you rather transform it?
The best ways to transform energy are to:
- Cure people with kindness.
Most of the time, this works!
- Go out of your way to do a good deed. Heck, do 100 until you feel better!
Whether it is opening a door, smiling at someone, giving a compliment, paying for someone’s coffee. All of these gestures are bound to eventually receive a good response that in turn will diminish the anger or resentment you may feel inside. Actually, it will go away completely! You’ll see.
- Hug a loved one.
Something about feeling that physical touch from someone you love is just THE BEST! It will make you think about the good things in your life.
- Remember that not everything is about you!
By human nature we make everything about US. We take it all personally, and interpret things as we know them via our experiences. Keep in mind that sometimes people are enduring struggles of their own. Whether they were just passed on negative energy themselves, having a bad day, or dealing with a hardship. Or maybe, they did not mean harm and just happen to have a personality that you do not understand. And sure, sometimes someone is rude and cynical by nature, or they plain don’t like you, but this is NOT your problem to deal with teehee.
That day I tried to follow my own tips so HAURD. I was opening doors, smiling, being extra nice to the people working at the mall, and in the end, I had the BEST time! I had random people smiling back at me, complementing my outfit (and I was not even really stunting that day), and someone in that same store where I was disrespected just a few hours before be beyond helpful and give me a discount LOL!
I can assure you that if I had let the cashier ruin my day and mood, I would not have had the same experience that day.
Again, we receive and give energy all day long! You can’t control what you will receive all of the time, but you can control how it will affect you, and how you will transfer it on to the next person you encounter. Be someone who is in control!
What do you think of this advice? Would you rather pop someone real quick, or try to cure others with kindness?