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I’M SO EXCITED!
“I am having a hard time with my sometimes rude and bossy co-worker. Most of the time we don’t get a please or thank you. And she can be pretty blunt at times. She can be pretty negative and things easily irritate her when to me, they can be solved easily. Why let something that little bother you so much that you express it out loud, constantly. We try to kill her with kindness but it’s so hard sometimes. I’m sure she doesn’t even realize it when she is being ugly but it’s hard to be comfy at a job where 1 person ruins your day, often.
She can be nice too, she’s not all bad but I think that bad can outshine the nice.
Do you have any tips?”
Oh man this one is tough, guys! LOL
First of all, I am so sorry that you are having a hard time with your co-worker.
Our work place and co-workers play a major role in our lives. Often we spend more time at work than we do at home, and we see our co-workers more than we see our own families!
When dealing with crappy attitudes I remember:
- We don’t know what others are going through.
- The only person I can control is myself.
With that being said, have you tried to discuss your discomfort with her in a non-confrontational way?
She might have problems in her personal life that she’s dragging into work.
Ask her to step aside and kindly express yourself. Maybe she doesn’t realize that she’s been ugly towards you guys. Go over particular scenarios, be specific, and give her a detailed and actionable plan for improvement.
For example, “The other day when I asked you to help me with XYZ, you responded “this way” and it made me feel “like this.” It would help if you would do “this instead.” If you feel flustered, know that I am here to help you. We are a team! Does that make sense? How can I help you?”
Another way to possibly improve the situation is to lead by example. If you see a problem that distresses her, solve it, and show her that its no big deal.
If neither of these two methods work, then sadly, that might be her natural personality.
Some people are just miserable souls (sorry to say it). There is nothing we can do to help them. We have to either learn to not let them affect us or distance ourselves which brings me to
Are you happy at your job?
This might be the cherry on top and the ulimtate sign that its time to switch jobs. I’m not implying to run away from confrontation or from people that you don’t fancy (they can be found anywhere), but maybe it is a SIGN that it’s time ta dip!
If you love your job, then the last resort is to post this in your break room.
LOL kidding. But if you do love your job, focus on the positive, and like I said, learn to not be affected.
Hope this helps!
What would you suggest, loves? Leave a comment below!!! I really want us to help.
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